|Posted on February 10, 2016 at 9:45 PM|
I’ve written 8 Romance novels, so, I feel I would be amiss if I didn’t write a little something about Valentine’s Day. I love love. I love the celebration of love. When I come upon a couple holding hands or kissing in public, it doesn't bother me. I find myself grinning and wanting to ask them about their love for each other.
The origin of Valentine’s Day is not the most romantic story and in my mind has no bearing on the celebration of this day. To me, Valentine’s Day is an excuse to share some romance, some hugs and kisses (chocolate ones!) with the one(s) you love.
However, Valentine's Day is also that time when I hear and read many complaints from people about how Valentine’s Day is nothing but a commercial holiday encouraging people to buy chocolate and flowers and Hallmark cards and how we’re all fools for falling for it. It’s a time when I read blogs from single people about how cruel Valentine’s Day is, about how they resent seeing hearts and flowers everywhere, and not be able to get a reservation in a restaurant. They resent being reminded they don’t have a current relationship.
I get it, really I do. However, I just don’t feel sorry for you, mostly because feeling sorry for someone is a negative concept and only adds energy to the problem. So because I love you and care about you, I refuse to commiserate with you. The hard ass in me wants to tell you that as long as you have that attitude, which is really resentment for other people’s happiness and joy, then your joy will be a while in coming. But, hey, I won’t say it. I retract that statement, because I also want to handle your tender feelings with gentle care.
I want to tell you that I love you. I really do. I have compassion for you. Mostly though, I want to encourage you to look at Valentine’s Day in a new and different light. When you see a couple snuggling in the booth at the restaurant, smile, and be happy for them. Smile, and imagine yourself in a wonderful relationship, for seeing it in your own eye will help to draw it to you. When you’re standing in line at the grocery story behind a guy purchasing a balloon and chocolates, instead of rolling your eyes, try this. Try thinking of the tired mom, who gets home from work, helps the kids with homework, throws in a load of laundry, figures out what to make for dinner and opens up her bedroom door to find a balloon and a box of chocolates waiting for her on the dresser. It’s no big deal. It’s merely an expression of love and appreciation from her spouse. Don’t you want her to smile, and feel appreciated?
Don’t you care about the joy and happiness of the women and men who use this day as a good time to remember their loved one with a little something special? Yes, we should do that everyday, however, holidays and celebrations are made to take us out of the tedium of every day life and make us stop for a minute and appreciate what we have. A time to celebrate love.... what could possibly be wrong with that? It’s wrong because you envy others what they have? Time to awaken and change up that attitude.
If you’re single, try to look at it this way; Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate love, whether you are in a relationship or not. Celebrate the love your best friend shares with her guy, or the love your sister shares with her hubby, or the love your parents share with their mates, or the first love of a little boy in fifth grade. In other words, try sending love out. Change up that resentful attitude with one of appreciation for all the love people share in the world. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, for that is about as attractive as a mangy rat. Glory in the love you see all around you and send your love out to join it, and you may be finding that when you do that, love comes back to you threefold.
Love is happiness and happiness is a choice. Choose wisely.