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DWTS Episode 3 - The Stars Most Memorable Year!

Posted on April 5, 2016 at 10:45 AM Comments comments (0)

MISCHA BARTON & ARTEM CHIGVINTSEV exited this week  [photo from wetpaint.com]

 DWTS Episode 3 theme was most memorable year for each star. This night on each season is usually full of emotion and gives us a glimpse into each of their lives. Last night was tremendous. I heard some wonderful, amazing, lovely and sad stories and I’m looking forward to sharing them with you!

One of the very best things I love about this show is how supportive and loving the cast is to each other. I think it makes the show so very high vibrational and it just makes me smile in my heart! 

1) First to dance was Ginger and Val who performed a contemporary number to Phillip Phillips’ Home. Ginger’s most memorable year was 2013 when she met the man whom she would marry, Ben Aaron, at the fountain outside New York City's Lincoln Center. They fell madly in love and apparently that fountain has been a part of their relationship every since. (First kiss, etc..) Ginger did a great job with her number. I always love the contemporary dances and this one was no exception. Though it wasn’t perfect, it was beautiful. Well done Ginger Zee! (Her name just demands you say  both sometimes, lol!) Their scores 7  - 7 - 7.

2) Doug and Karina performed a Waltz. He chose 2015 as his most memorable year and with good reason. His emotions were raw as he told the story. His father had been ill and finally passed away. His mother then rose and crossed the room, approached his father and kissed him on the forehead, and then, she simply fell forward and “was gone.” When I heard this story I was blown away. He said he just wanted to make them proud. Still trying to prove himself, even to them. My heart went out to him. Their waltz was much better than I thought it would be. He put a lot of effort into making it smooth and graceful.  Great job! Their scores 7 - 6 - 7.

3) Kim and Sasha performed a Foxtrot to the old Facts of Life theme song. Kim chose as her year 1976, when she nervously auditioned for a Mrs. Butterworth syrup commercial. She was very intimidated by the large, highly competitive group who were there to audition, which included Janet Jackson. But her mom gave the 6-year-old a pep talk and she went for it and got it! That was the beginning for her career and it changed her life, obviously. Their Foxtrot was rock solid, graceful and well done. Len said it was like maple syrup, smooth and tasty. Their scores 8 - 7 - 7.

Coming back from the break we got to see a tiny bit of the awesome  jazz dance performed by troupe members Shannon and Hayley.

4) Von and Witney performed a contemporary number. As expected Von chose 2016 as his most memorable year, the year he and his team won the Superbowl and he was awarded the MVP. I loved the story about Von’s father not wanting him to play football and his mom sneaking him off to play on the weekends. Though once his father found out he was playing, he supported him. Even more I love that Von uses Phil Collins’ song, In the Air Tonight to get psyched up for the games. And even more than that, I LOVED the expression on Von’s face when Bruno describes him as a superhunk. They did a respectable job. The lifts were great!  Their scores 7 - 6 - 7.

5) Marla and Tony performed a jive, one of my favorite dances. Marla chose 1993 as her most memorable year as it was the year her daughter was born. I’ve gotta say, that Marla is such a darn classy lady, I just really like her. She is so positive and .... up. Her dancing to Happy is perfect. She was a little soft in energy, but, that’s just her and I like her. Their scores 7 - 7 - 7.

6) Antonio and Antonio and Sharna with a Foxtrot. Nope that’s not a typo. Antonio chose as his most memorable year 2007, a year he set college records (not the only year he did that,) and the year his first son, Antonio,  was born. Love how much Antonio loves his kids, (four of them) and how he’s vowed to be a great dad, something he knew very little about. Little Antonio performed with his Dad in the number and they all did a great job. Their scores 7 - 6 - 7.

7) Paige and Mark performed a Paso Doble. First let me say that I’m very happy to see Mark is feeling better and is back. That’s not to slight Alan who was awesome to come in last week and dance for Mark last minute. Paige chose the year 2014, when she won her first UFC championship. She went in against an undefeated opponent and won, because she truly believed she could. This was an amazing transformation after she was bullied so much in high school that she went from being a 4.0 student to never showing up for class. Bullying... I just don’t get it. But that’s another whole story. Let me just say, parents, check to be sure YOUR child is not doing that bullying. Some of you may be surprised. Back to the dance.... Mark’s choreography is always cutting edge and tonight was awesome. Len didn’t like it because it wasn’t the normal type Paso, but as Carrie Ann pointed out, it’s choreography like Mark’s that keeps this show moving forward. And as Carrie Ann also said, their number was “bad ass!”  I agree. If you just take time to watch Paige’s lines, her grace, her ease of movement, she is really a top-notch dancer. Their scores 8 - 7 - 8.

8) Jodi and Keo performed a Foxtrot. Jodi chose 2015, the year she came back to do Fuller House, as her most memorable year. She describes how she grew up on Full House from age 5 to age 13 and suddenly it was over. She felt like she’d lost her family, likened it to a death that she was unable to grieve. She fell into the depths of despair using drugs and alcohol. She’s been sober now, I think she said, 5 years. And then, they called her for Fuller House and she thought, “What a gift!”  I’m so happy for her, that she has been able to defeat her demons. I hope she continues to heal. Keo’s choreography for the Foxtrot, much like Mark’s, was out of the box and I love it. Their number was awesome and finally, Jodi is beginning to show what she can do on the dance floor. Their scores 8 - 7 - 8.

Coming back from break we got a glimpse of Jenna, Alan and Kiril in a powerful Paso Doble.

9) Mischa and Artem performed a Samba. Somehow I think Mischa got the news that she needs to focus on the good and not “the bad.” She chose 2008 as her most memorable year as it was the year that brought much change in her life. She actually smiled during rehearsal and during her number. Focusing on the positive made her performance much less painful to watch. I mean, let’s face it, she’s not great at dancing, so that’s when she needs to let the fun take over and just be grateful for being able to do the show. That seems to be what she did. Their scores 6 - 6 - 6. Later in the show, we discover that Mischa was the next to be eliminated. I hope she was able to learn from her experience and discover that “reacting” to a circumstance is not conducive to a happy life. She can “choose” to be happy and focus on the good things and that will bring her many more good things.

10) Wanya and Lindsay performed a Waltz to the National Anthem. Yep, you heard that right! Wanya chose the 1996 as his most memorable year. It was the year of the Atlanta Olympic Games. If you recall, there had been a terror attack during the games and Boyz II Men were singing the National Anthem in the closing ceremonies. Wanya says they just wanted to do a good job and make it beautiful for everyone after all that had happened. They nailed it and he said, it was then he thought they had truly arrived. So Wanya and Lindsay danced to that version of Boyz II Men singing the National Anthem. She had to come up with way to make it a Waltz and to give it a beat and she did an amazing job. Their dance was beautiful. Their scores 8 - 8 - 8.

11) Last but definitely not least, Nyle and Peta performed an amazing Tango! Nyle’s most memorable year was 2012. He’d been born into a deaf family and in 2012 he decided he wanted to discover the world. He traveled without an interpreter and became fearless. He is amazing and Peta too is amazing and their Tango was amazing! Top scores of the night... 8 - 8 - 9.

Next week is Disney week and Zendayah Coleman will be back as guest judge! Zendaya danced with Val in Season 16 and was fantastic! She is adorable for sure!

 

 

 

Dancing With The Stars-Episode 2

Posted on March 29, 2016 at 4:10 PM Comments comments (0)


Geraldo Rivera and Edyta Sliwinska [pic from tvnewser]

 

It’s so much fun to get home late on a Monday night, looking forward to relaxing before bed and then remember, oh, wait, I have a recording of DWTS to watch! Okay, let’s get this mirror ball rolling.


First of all, I want to say that I think the scoring by the judges was a little bit more in line with my thinking this time, except for one. We’ll get to that one in a bit. I also want to say that Carrie Ann’s braid was really pretty and feminine. I like it.


Up first were Jodi and Keo with a Samba. I gave you last names in the first edition, we’re on a first name basis now, lol.  I thought she did great though I still feel like Jodi hasn’t broken out of her shell yet. I wish I could help pump up her self-esteem a bit.  Keo told her in rehearsal, “Don’t be desperate...and bring that energy!” He’s so supportive and seems to realize she needs a boost. I’m lovin’ me some Keo. Even the judges wanted to help Jodi. Bruno said, “Don’t doubt yourself.” He’s right. Come on, Jodi, we love you and you can do this! Go for it.  I think her scores will go up soon. Tonight’s scores... 7 - 7 - 7. A little lower than she deserved..IMHO. Still, she went first and I think that hurts because they want to keep them low at first.

2) Marla and Tony performed an Argentine Tango. Marla is just so darn pretty and graceful and elegant. She seemed a little detached to me and at least one of the judges agreed with me. Len said it lacked intimacy but was clean and polished. Carrie Ann said it was elegant and classy. Exactly. She has such good lines. I love her all natural way of life. I know some people who do all those things she was talking about. Their scores 7 - 6 - 7.

Coming back from break Dennis and Jenna were doing a cha-cha. It was so hot. Wish we could have seen the whole thing. I love watching the pros dance. After some research I have found the names of the Season 22 Troupe. Their names in this photo (which I found on BuddyTV.com) from L to R are Shannon Holtzapffel, Jenna Johnson, Kiril Kulish,  Dennis Jauch, Hayley Erbert and  Alan Bersten.

 3) Geraldo and Edyta tried hard to do a Salsa. Geraldo impersonated ‘The Donald’ and they had great fun. There was a bit of improvement and Carrie Ann agrees. Len said he came out and gave it his best shot and Bruno called him a source of inspiration. Bless his heart. Scores were 5 - 4 - 4. At the end of the night Geraldo was the one to leave the show this first elimination. I think he may have been relieved, though I hate to see Edyta sidelined. It was her first time back after having a baby and I’m looking forward to seeing more of her.

4) Next, Paige and Mark, only it wasn’t Mark. Mark hurt his back just a few hours before showtime. I haven’t heard how bad the injury is yet. I hope it’s not as serious as it seemed to be. Pro troupe member Alan stepped in and learned the routine in short time. I guess that’s why they’re called “pros.” That’s hard on Paige to learn the dance with a new partner, but you couldn’t tell. She and Alan were great. Paige is a powerful presence when she’s dancing. I still think she’s one of the top. Mark’s choreography was awesome as usual. Alan was awesome too, but I hope Mark is okay and can come back, cuz I think he and Paige have a real chance. Their scores,  8 - 8 - 8.

5) Antonio and Sharna performed an intimate, sexy, Rumba. With those two beautiful bodies, how could it not be sexy? They did a great job but had points taken off for a lift. We won’t talk about the “blood flow” comment. They did better than their scores show. 6 - 6 - 7.

6)  Next up, Tootie, oh shoot, I mean Kim and Sasha.  They did a Salsa to to Conga by Gloria Estefan, a song I loooovvvveeee! If that can’t make you move, nothing can. Apparently Kim loves Gloria Estefan and so Sasha surprised her by getting Gloria on the, I don’t know... facetime? Instagram? Skype? Google Hangout? Something like that. Kim was very excited. She did a great job on her number, though she had a little mess up. Their scores, 7 - 6 - 6.

I was excited to see that Noah Galloway dropped by. The double-amputee Iraq War veteran was on Season 20 of DWTS with partner Sharna Burgess.

7) Nyle and Peta performed a Rumba. I thought it was wonderful, but Len and Bruno felt like it was too intense and too aggressive and hectic. Carrie Ann thought it was stunning and so did I. They took off points for a lift. I was surprised that one of the judges hasn’t told Nyle to keep his bum tucked.  I love what Nyle had to say. He said that first show was the most memorable experience of his life. He thought people would see him as a sympathy vote, but he’s a dancer! Yes, he sure is! Their scores 7 - 6 - 7. Too low. :(

In the audience they showed a quick shot of Adrianne Haslet-Davis, the ballroom dancer who lost her leg in the  Boston Marathon bombings and announced that she would be running the Boston Marathon again when it takes place in a few weeks! You go girl!

8 - Mischa and Artem with a Cha-Cha. In rehearsal she was worried and frustrated. If we can learn anything from Mischa, and we can, we see a perfect example of being your own worst enemy. Her  performance was a good try. The judges tried to encourage her. Carrie Ann told her that people’s hearts want to embrace her and lift her up, that’s why they love this show... yes, we do! Here’s what we can learn from her. I wrote down just a few of the phrases she said after her dance. “...really bad...really rough... kinda tough...” If she perked up, focused on the positive, just tried to have fun, and maybe even, be grateful that she is there because soooo many of us would love to be in her place, then I think things would go better for her. Preach over. Their scores, 5 - 5 - 5.

9) Von and Witney danced a Cha-Cha though Bruno said there wasn’t much Cha-Cha in it. Love Von. He has a great attitude. He still seems a little ...unleashed... I guess, but I think if he really applies himself and actually tries to dance a real ballroom dance, he might be great. His passing gas fines were hilarious and I’m glad they are donating the money to a charity. I enjoyed their dance. Their scores, 7 - 6 - 7.

10) Wanya’ and Lindsay did a fantastic Salsa. I loved it. He is up there at the top with Paige as far as I’m concerned. He’s already lost 15 pounds and he says he just wants to look like a dancer. Well he’s looking great! And while we’re talking about looks, come on, did you see Lindsay’s dress/costume? That girl is smokin’!!!! Their scores, 8 - 8 - 8. Tied for first with Paige!!

11) Doug and Karina with a Paso Doble. Sooooo much better. Doug came across as powerful and masculine and moved with confidence. So glad to see this. Way to go. Their scores, 7 - 6 - 7.

12) Ginger and Val rocked a Samba. If they judged just on Ginger’s legs they would have 10's. Gorgeous. They did a great job, though Ginger slipped a couple of times. I’m sure their scores would have been higher if not for that. Their scores 7 - 7 - 7.

So that wraps the night. If you missed it earlier, Geraldo was the first to exit. It was a great night and the scores were a little more in keeping with what I was thinking. We’ll see who surprises us this next week!

Dancing With The Stars Season 22 Opening Night (and my pics for winner!)

Posted on March 23, 2016 at 8:00 PM Comments comments (0)

 



 

 I  have a few guilty pleasures and Dancing With The Stars is definitely one of them. There are many things about the show that I love, but one of the main ones is watching the camaraderie develop from week to week. Everyone is so supportive of each other and that makes this show high vibrational which makes it absolutely worth watching! I've thought about writing a blog about the show each season, and now, finally, I'm doing it. That being said, let's get into it. Since there are so many dancers to write about this first time, I will do six today and six tomorrow.

 Last night's show, Monday, March 21, 2016

Hello to judge Carrie Ann Inaba, love her enthusiasm and honesty. Wonder how many times she'll fall out of her chair this season. Hello also to judge Bruno Tonioli who is usually upbeat and positive while delivering his innuendo-filled remarks. Welcome back, Len. I hope he will try to be kind. I loved last season because all three judges were positive and uplifting. I will miss Julieann Hough, however, it's no surprise that the adorable talented young lady has a lot of things going right now. I heard that she promises to come back at some point. I'm personally hoping it's as a dancer! Brother Derek too will be missed. He has always been one of my favorites. Currently he's doing Singing In the Rain on Broadway and I'm sure his audiences are in for a real treat! One more thing before I get to the dancers... Hosts Tom Bergeron and Erin Andrews...love them. I loved Brooke Burke too, but I can't be mad at Erin for the way Brooke's "letting go" was so poorly handled. A little integrity and class would have gone a long way in that area.

 Moving on, first up, "little Tootie" Kim Fields and Sasha Farber did a chacha. Kim is looking fabulous and I guess I can't call her "little Tootie" anymore since she is all grown up. She did a great job and I agree with Carrie Ann, she's a firecracker. Gotta root for the "home team" a little bit since she's in Atlanta. Sasha is not only gorgeous but like all the pro dancers...has an impressive resume'. Read about him here...  Their scores, 7 - 6 - 7. Pretty much right on. I have no doubt she'll improve. 

 2) - UFC fighter Paige VanZant and Mark Ballas with a foxtrot. Oh yes! I was excited to see that Paige has a feminine side too. I have to root for her because she's a fighter, like Shelley in my novel, Dandelions Never Die. Shelley too definitely has a feminine side. Not only was Paige beautiful last night, but she did a great job. Great lines, graceful and shows great potential. She's in my top five to win. Of course, with Mark Ballas, whom I love and who I think has some of the most innovative and artistic choreography, she is in good hands. You may notice that I will focus on the pro dancers quite a bit and with good reason. They are all so very impressive and have worked hard to get to be as awesome as they are. I loooovvveee the pro's. Read about Mark here.... Their scores 7 - 7 - 7.

 3) -  Big time QB Doug Flutie and Karina Smirnoff also did a foxtrot...sort of. Well, he wasn't the worse. They danced to Sweet Caroline in honor of Boston/NE. Loved hearing the very human side of Doug, stating that throughout his life, things didn't come easy and he always had to prove himself. He stumbled a bit on the dance, but hey...Karina's dress was smokin'!!! No, really, it was beautiful! Read about Karina here.... She's pretty awesome! Their scores 5 - 5 - 5. Hopefully he will loosen up and not be the first to go home. 

4) - Full House middle sister Jodi Sweetin and Keo Motsepe performed a tango. I love Jodi and I LOVE Keo so this should be a great team! They did a great job and I only expect them to get better. I just wanted to hug Jodi when she talked about her insecurities as an adult and wandering what people will think about her. Hey, Jodi, don't you worry about that. You are loved. She had good lines and did an impressive job. I'm really hoping she and Keo will make it to the top five. Keo, from the moment I saw him like, three seasons ago I think, I thought, wow, this guy can dance. His flair reminded me of Derek Hough and I am glad he won't be one of the first to go this season. I'm rooting for these two. I hope Jodi doesn't worry about the "expression on her face." I got it..she was trying to look fierce for the tango. Read about Keo here....   Their scores 7 - 6 - 7.

 5) - Journalist Geraldo Rivera and Edyta Sliwinska with an attempt at a chacha. Well, Geraldo is 72, so...good for you. Edyta, and welcome back to this gorgeous young lady!... did what she could. Mostly this is going to be a dance around him type deal, but maybe he can loosen up and do a little better before he has to leave. I have faith in him. Read about Edyta here...  (At this link it actually said her bio was coming soon..so I hope it is there by the time you click on it.) Their scores 5 - 4 - 4  were the lowest of the night, but I doubt they expected any more. If Geraldo goes home soon, I hope Edyta will at least be featured in many of the pro dances. 

 BTW, the pro cast who aren't paired up and perform all the other numbers...they are rockin' too. I don't know all their names yet this season, but that Jenna.... that girl is awesome! 

6) - Marla Maples and Tony Dovolani performed a quickstep, a beautiful quickstep I must say. She was like an angel floating over the floor. I was pleasantly surprised. She is, of course, known as the ex- Donald, but she has a lot more going for her. One of the most interesting to me is her "single "House of Love," off her album The Endless, features Deepak Chopra and LogiQ Pryce, and won the Hollywood Music in MediaAward (HMMA) for best song in the Ambient/New Age category." (From her Dancing With The Stars Bio on ABC.go.com) Fifty-something Marla is a beautiful lady. She had a few missteps in her dance, but her smile and happiness overcame any little mistake she made. I hope she sticks around a long time. Tony is amazing, and so kind, and such a gentleman. Love him. Read about Tony here.....    Their scores 7 - 7 - 7.

Pictured Witney Carson and Keo Motsepe

 So, let's get on with this delicious night! That brings us to the 7th dance....Wanya Morris!

 7) - Wanya Morris and partner Lindsay Arnold performed a cha cha. Wanya,  representing his peeps from Boys II Men said he was looking forward to having a great time, losing some weight and meeting some great people. Well, I have a feeling he is going to do much more than that. He did a great job. I knew he could move, but I didn't expect him to be so smooth. Bruno called him delicious. He is blessed with a delicious partner, Lindsay Arnold, who is one of my fav dancers, of course, she trained with the Ballas' so, yeah, she's good. Read about Lindsay here....  They received a great score and I think he may end up in my top five. Their scores 8 - 7 - 8.

8) - Next up, the lovely Ginger Zee and the beautiful Val Chmerkocskiy (yes, I can call a man beautiful...I call Chris Hemsworth that all the time, lol.) Ginger, the GMA meteorologist, was adorable trying to 'pump' there in the dance studio in front of Val.  He didn't know what to think. Hat's off to Ginger for having just had a baby three months ago and going for it in front of the world. She was beautiful and vivacious and she pushed hard. Maybe they call her "Ginger" for a reason. They danced a jive, a hard dance, especially when you're breastfeeding. Ginger and Val are going to be great together. Read all about Val here....   Len said Ginger was sunshine, and I agree. They also received high scores 8 - 7 - 8.

 9) - Ninth to perform were actress Mischa Barton and Artem Chigvintsev. Mischa seemed a little stiff and a little lost during her tango. My heart went out to her. She is so pretty and so sweet and she looked so sad after Len's comments. I was happy that Erin Andrews had some comforting words for her in the interview. Mischa has never danced before, but I'm thinking she is going to improve greatly with Artem as her partner. He is kind and seems to be able to sense her feelings. He has quite the resume and was a finalist in So You Think You Can Dance in 2014. Read about him here....  Their scores were not the best, but they were also not the worst. 5 - 5 - 6.

10) - Nyle DiMarco and Peta Murgatroyd. Their cha cha was aawwweesssooommmeee! Nyle is totally deaf. He got recognition as a winner of America's Next Top Model and is an actor and spokesperson. He did a great job, stayed right on the beat. Great job to the lovely Peta too, who is going the extra mile in working with Nyle, teaching him to dance and her learning sign language so that she can communicate with him. Learn more about Peta here....  They have an uphill battle and they were beautiful to watch. Deafness aside, I think Nyle is going to be a contender for sure. Their scores 8 - 7 - 8. 

 11) -  Pittsburgh Steelers' own MVP Antonio Brown dancing with one of my very 'favoritest' pro dancers, Sharna Burgess. I knew Antonio would be able to move, and I wasn't wrong. He does need to work on his toes turning in and keeping his frame up. His feet though are fast and he came out like a beast. They performed a quickstep, one of the most difficult dances right out of the gate. Let's talk about Sharna. Every time I see her I think, how can a woman be so very beautiful. And the dress... I mean, wow! I don't mean to minimize her by speaking of her appearance... she is an amazing dancer and her choreography is top notch! Really looking forward to what she has planned for Antonio. Read about Sharna here....  Their scores 8 - 6 - 7.

12) - Last but definitely not least, Von Miller, Broncos linebacker and Super Bowl 50 MVP partnered up with gorgeous Witney Carson. Von's attitude was awesome, humble and hardworking, and Witney was called a Barbie Drill Sergeant. Love that! Witney is tough and a ball of energy. Read more about her here....  Von is big and a little cumbersome, but he can move. Eventually one of the judges will address his big hands and how he can be more graceful with them. A foxtrot is a hard one when the partners are so physically different, one giant, the other tiny. Their high score surprised me, but hey, we'll take it! 8 - 6 - 7.

 So, Carrie Ann called the night, "All Kinds of Good." And I agree. I'm excited to see how the season progresses. 

I've been trying to settle on a top five, but I'm having a little trouble. I think the world would pick Wanya, Antonio, Nyle and Ginger for sure...and maybe Von Miller though I think his score was a little inflated. I'm saying that Jodi Sweetin and Paige VanZant maybe a little underestimated. I think Paige's numbers were lower because she was near the front of the lineup and they were trying to keep them low and Jodi can dance, she was just nervous. I expect these two ladies to improve greatly and surprise some people. With partners like Mark Ballas and Keo, I pick them. 

 So, my top five, Paige and Mark, Wanya and Lindsay, Antonio and Sharna, Nyle and Peta, and Jodie and Keo. . . followed up closely with Ginger and Val. 

 Either way, I love them all. Who do you pick?

How to Celebrate Valentine's Day if You're Single

Posted on February 10, 2016 at 9:45 PM Comments comments (0)

 I’ve written 8 Romance novels, so, I feel I would be amiss if I didn’t write a little something about Valentine’s Day. I love love. I love the celebration of love. When I come upon a couple holding hands or kissing in public, it doesn't bother me. I find myself grinning and wanting to ask them about their love for each other. 

 The origin of Valentine’s Day is not the most romantic story and in my mind has no bearing on the celebration of this day. To me, Valentine’s Day is an excuse to share some romance, some hugs and kisses (chocolate ones!) with the one(s) you love. 

However, Valentine's Day is also that time when I hear and read many complaints from people about how Valentine’s Day is nothing but a commercial holiday encouraging people to buy chocolate and flowers and Hallmark cards and how we’re all fools for falling for it. It’s a time when I read blogs from single people about how cruel Valentine’s Day is, about how they resent seeing hearts and flowers everywhere, and not be able to get a reservation in a restaurant. They resent being reminded they don’t have a current relationship.

I get it, really I do. However, I just don’t feel sorry for you, mostly because feeling sorry for someone is a negative concept and only adds energy to the problem. So because I love you and care about you, I refuse to commiserate with you. The hard ass in me wants to tell you that as long as you have that attitude, which is really resentment for other people’s happiness and joy, then your joy will be a while in coming. But, hey, I won’t say it. I retract that statement, because I also want to handle your tender feelings with gentle care.

I want to tell you that I love you. I really do. I have compassion for you. Mostly though, I want to encourage you to look at Valentine’s Day in a new and different light. When you see a couple snuggling in the booth at the restaurant, smile, and be happy for them. Smile, and imagine yourself in a wonderful relationship, for seeing it in your own eye will help to draw it to you. When you’re standing in line at the grocery story behind a guy purchasing a balloon and chocolates, instead of rolling your eyes, try this. Try thinking of the tired mom, who gets home from work, helps the kids with homework, throws in a load of laundry, figures out what to make for dinner and opens up her bedroom door to find a balloon and a box of chocolates waiting for her on the dresser. It’s no big deal. It’s merely an expression of love and appreciation from her spouse. Don’t you want her to smile, and feel appreciated?

Don’t you care about the joy and happiness of the women and men who use this day as a good time to remember their loved one with a little something special? Yes, we should do that everyday, however, holidays and celebrations are made to take us out of the tedium of every day life and make us stop for a minute and appreciate what we have. A time to celebrate love.... what could possibly be wrong with that? It’s wrong because you envy others what they have? Time to awaken and change up that attitude.

If you’re single, try to look at it this way; Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate love, whether you are in a relationship or not. Celebrate the love your best friend shares with her guy, or the love your sister shares with her hubby, or the love your parents share with their mates, or the first love of a little boy in fifth grade. In other words, try sending love out. Change up that resentful attitude with one of appreciation for all the love people share in the world. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, for that is about as attractive as a mangy rat. Glory in the love you see all around you and send your love out to join it, and you may be finding that when you do that, love comes back to you threefold.

Love is happiness and happiness is a choice. Choose wisely.

Are You a Closet Romance Reader?

Posted on July 2, 2010 at 10:15 AM Comments comments (2)

Many times since I began writing romance/women's fiction, I've run up against what I call 'the snobbery of the publishing industry.' It comes from everywhere but mostly from educated individuals who sincerely look down on the romance genre. I believe the words I've heard associated with it are .... silly, cheesy, porn, worthless, waste of time, .. just to name a few.

I've always found those who judge something harshly usually have not given it sufficient consideration, or are merely, "protesting too loudly," for fear they may lose some credibility for themselves. Maybe if they actually took the time to read a few mainstream romance novels they would begin to understand the pull. Here are a few statistics. Click on the link for more detail.

In 2008, romance was the top performing category on the New York Times, USA Today, and Publishers Weekly best-seller lists.

Romance Market Share Compared to Other Genres(source: Simba Information estimates)

Romance fiction: $1.37 billion in estimated revenue for 2008

Religion/inspirational: $800 million

Mystery: $668 million

Science fiction/fantasy: $551 million

Classic literary fiction: $446 million

In Wikipedia it states... "By the 2000s, romance had become the most popular genre in modern literature. In 2004, romantic fiction generated $1.2 billion in sales, with 2,285 romance novels published. Almost 55% of all paperback books sold in 2004 were romance novels, and this genre made up 39% of all fiction sold that year.

Why do I love romance fiction? For its entertainment value of course. Why do people go to movies, most of which play just as a romance novel reads? Why do we watch romantic comedies? Why do movies like Pirates of the Carribean pull so many? Romance... who can resist Jonny Depp in anything and who wanted to see Orlando Bloom get together with Keira Knightley... we did! As artsy as a sad ending is, wouldn't you prefer to walk away from a movie or book with a smile on your face and a warm, fuzzy feeling in your heart?

A friend of mine who is working on her PHD in English, doesn't really read romance, or like it per se. As a favor to me, or possibly out of boredom, she read Dandelions Never Die. She came back with the report that she was surprised. She found it was really very entertaining and she went on to read my other books and even took the time to write a review on Amazon for two of them.

I was on Amazon the other day and stumbled across a discussion "Finally comfortable with being a romance reader." Click on the link and check it out, but I saved a few comments (with permission) to post here on my webstie. Here they are....

MK says: I think it is kind of funny...I have been reading romance novels for over 25 years, since I was in middle school basically with the "teenager" versions of Harlequin novels. I have hidden this from everyone I know forever. It just seemed so embarrassing to me for some reason. I am a scientist who spent many years studying chemistry, all of my friends belong to book clubs where they read thought provoking "literature". I have no interest in that...I want to read something that helps me escape for a while! I love to laugh and cry while I read a book, but I always want to know that there is a happy ending. I am a fortunate person, but like anyone out there I have a lot of things to be sad about. I read books to feel better and cheer myself up!

I have finally started telling people proudly (Even the book club literature friends) that I read romance novels. I read them because they make me happy. And by the way- I aced all the verbal/written standardized tests in high school (SAT etc) because of what I picked up from romance novels. I think they have given me a better vocabulary than most people, and I know a lot about history that many people would never be aware of.

Ansyway- here is a "hurrah" to all of us romance novel readers. I think we are an awesome group of people!

R. Huang says: Hi MK,

Congratulations, you are finally out of the romance "closet"! LOL I am so glad to see a fellow smart and intelligent scientist admitting to the love of romance novels. I am also a scientist in academic biological science and like you have been hiding my passion for romance novels from my friends and colleagues. I've only started reading them about a year ago. I was working on a difficult project at work and stressed to the hilt so I was looking for something else other than Nature, Cell and Science to read so I can escape for a little bit each day. I started reading the Bronze Horseman trilogy by Paulina Simmons that I picked up from Borders and fell in love with romance novels. At first I was a little bit embarrassed to admit to my friends that I read romances and my bf made fun of me when he found my stash under the bed. Then I realized hey some people turn to drug, alcohol or sex to distress and I turn to romance novels, at least my method is way more harmless to both my health and wallet. So I just didn't care anymore and have them to think or ridicule all they want to, I even told them they should try to read a couple themselves and see if they'll change their attitudes toward romance novels. Later on I found out all my colleagues have their own indulgence, one guy reads sci-fi fantasy novels, another plays the computer game Civilization for hours and hours each day, and another watch Japanese anime on a regular basis. They are all brilliant scientists with PhDs by the way but none of them are embarrassed about their hobbies, they talk about it all the time. One of them joked that I should consider putting romance novel reader on my CV because I am sure to pick up skills from those that I won't be able to pick up from the lab, he said it makes me more well rounded...LOL.

Its time to shout to the world that you are a romance reader and be proud of it!

McCartney says:  I love romance novels. I write romance. Still, it took time to bravely lift my chin when someone asks, "You're a writer? What do you write?" I think it stems from the snobbery I encountered from many English majors and self-help gurus who intimated that a romance novel was a waste of good time. Contrary to that belief by the "intellectuals" of the world, romance is not only entertaining, but helps to empower women, helps all to search for their ideal career, and even gives us goals and ideals to work for. They uplift and yes, even educate. And so..... My name is McCartney Green and I read ... and write.... romance!

Deanna L. Fisher says: Which is ridiculous because some of the big names in romance have phd's and other various degrees...Eloisa James has a PhD in English (Shakespeare I think); Diana Gabaldon has a PhD in Ecology (or something like that)

The discussion had so many wonderful people and discussions I wanted to copy and paste the whole thing here!

And so, in closing, I stand proudly to say, I love romance!


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